Why Collaboration is better than Compromise | James Henley

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Why Collaboration is better than Compromise

Last week I had a great conversation about conflict resolution with some friends, in particular on the differences between collaboration and compromise. We talked about the differences between the two and how collaboration is the most desirable solution to conflict, although not necessarily always possible. Dave has blogged through our thoughts from his point of view.

Here are some of my own opinions on compromise and collaboration:

Compromise…

is quickly achievable.
is desirable in the short term.
does not require individuals to share goals, values or beliefs.
identifies a “balanced” solution that meets in the middle.
is static – lacks a sense of moving forward.
requires both parties to be content with less than 50% satisfaction.
is hindered by diversity.

Collaboration…

takes longer than compromising.
is desirable for long term growth/development.
requires everyone involved to be included and listened to – and to not give up.
provides creative and highly contextual solutions.
is dynamic – requires movement, goals and purpose.
allows everyone to be 100% satisfied.
utilizes and thrives on diversity of skills and viewpoints.

The biggest challenge presented by collaboration is that it strongly relies on individuals listening to each other. Individual goals and values must be worked through in pursuit of a set of shared goals or values with which to move forwards. But sometimes collaboration is the best resolution we can hope for because of time restraints or an inability to listen honestly or find a shared vision.

In the long term, though, individuals are only ever willing to compromise for a limited period of time. Eventually, if collaboration is unachievable then usually the compromise will break down and people will walk out of the process altogether.

How do we achieve collaboration?

What obstacles stand in the way of compromise?

What skills can a good team leader / facilitator utilise to find the route towards collaboration and away from compromise?

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